On my mind

My perception of myself at this stage in my life, especially my definition of motherhood has been changing. Here are a few of the things I am trying to change in my mind set.

*Being available to Little Miss as she leads me around by my finger is not a waste of time. No, the house may not be clean, but I am teaching her that she is more important to me than how our house looks. People are more important than things.

*I will probably never want to play Star Wars, but I need to do it anyway. I need to be involved with what Handsome likes, even if I don't like it-especially if I don't like it. How will he feel supported and loved if I never share the things he loves with him?

*I need to find joy in all of their stages, because too soon they will be over. I don't understand why one of her favorite things to do is climb up the ladder on brother's bed, crawl to the other side and get lifted down, repeat, repeat, repeat, repeat . . . . But the happiness on her face should be enough to envelope my frustration.

*Physical nourishment is not as important as spiritual nourishment. My focus is too much on the physical when the spiritual is where I should be spending my efforts.

*Love and kindness is always the solution; getting angry and frustrated never works.

*Diligence is key. Children need consistency and habits are built with practice. Diligence.

*I want to be a happy mom. If I am worried and upset I will miss the joy because I am only seeing the bad. I want to teach my kids that although things don't go your way you can choose happiness and choice is very powerful.

*I need to do a better job of accepting they are people that I need to respect. I cannot control them. My job is to teach, guide and love them. They may be little now, but some day they will be big :)

*Being a mom is hard work and I can't do it alone. A good husband and a loving Heavenly Father enable me to do that which is more important to me.